I am a survivor of a long history of child sexual abuse. As a teenager who also had “absent father syndrome” I was extremely sexually active, this has carried on my entire adult life; but every time I get into a real relationship, once the “newness” of it wears off, I become almost incapable of being intimately involved with someone that I have developed feelings for. Is this normal? Can you suggest anything that might help heat things back up in the bedroom?
“Forgetting how to love”
Are you entering a relationship because of the sex, or trying to find that daddy figure? The reason I ask this is because, sometimes we enter into things trying to find that which we are missing.
As for finding a relationship to continue after the newness wears off, are you dating, are you just going for the day?
Might I suggest dating; you are worth more than what your body can give. After the dating, or while dating, ask yourself what attracts you to that person, other than the physical aspect.
But to renew the bedroom intimates, start by experimental play, introduce serious foreplay.
Foreplay is a necessity in a healthy relationship, we have to prime ourselves. Massage, blindfolds, touching, caressing. Does this make sense?
Please let me know, I hope that I’ve helped in what you were looking for.